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September 22 2017

Fashion Resources for Trans Men

spreading-trans-nonbinary-love:

journeyintomanhood:

I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to dress. I don’t mean to pass but to dress and look and fee good. The truth is I used to know nothing about fashion. I grew up wearing my brothers hand-me-downs because we were didn’t have money for much else, moved to wearing clothes I hated, and then moved into wearing clothes to pass (read oversized hoodies and jeans). So here is a list of things I’ve found helpful and you might too: 

General Fashion Tips:  

15 Quick Fashion Tips for Men

Men’s Fashion Basics - Formal

Men’s Fashion Basics - Casual 

Upgrade Your Style: 25 Easy Tips for Men 

How to Dress Sharp: 9 Style Steps for Young Men 

A Man’s Belt Guide 

28 Fashion Items Every Guy Needs for Spring and Summer Under $100 

The Ten Commandments of Summer Style 

10 Tips for Better Men’s Fall Outfits 

Dos and Don’ts of Winter Fashion

Tips for Dressing when You’re Short: 

Dressing Taller: 10 Tips for Short Men 

The Modest Man 

5 Dressing Tips for Short Men 

Fashion Tips for Short(er) Men

Tips to Look Older: 

14 Style Tips to Dress Older 

10 Easy Ways to Look Older as a Man 

How to Look Older: Ways Baby Faced Guys Can Look Older Than Their Age 

Haircut and Style Tips: 

How to Get a Better Haircut 

How to Find the Right Hairstyle for your Face 

Grooming Style Product Guide 

Shaving & Facial Hair Tips:  

12 Easy Beard Care Tips 

How to Get the Best Shave 

Shaving 101 

Something more directed towards trans men, but I thought I share it with you, since there are a lot of links, and maaaaybe there’s something in for some of you too? 

-Mod Jörunn

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September 21 2017

brownsunbisexual:

whew anyway lesbians who have been with men before are still lesbians and bi women who have only ever been with men before are still bisexual. compulsory heterosexuality is demonic and it’s so particularly egregious to wade through because it’s a systemic phenomenon, not an internalized one. i’m proud of every lesbian and bisexual and otherwise identifying wlw who knows that she loves girls and i’m proud of all of you regardless of your past experiences or individual interpersonal relationships. it’s incredibly difficult to realize that you love women, whether that means realizing that you’re mga or exclusively attracted to women. stay strong!

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coffeeandtheartist:

[ID: A styled drawing of Tyler (Tumblr user crpl-pnk) in black marker and watercolor. There is a hand-lettered quote to the left of them. It reads “To be disabled and not hate yourself for it is a profound act of resistance” Resistance is spelled wrong; it is missing the “N”. There is a carrot adding it in. This is a quote/post from Tyler] 

  @crpl-pnk I hope this is okay to draw; I can delete it if not!

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kosmonauttihai:

rollerskatinglizard:

ceekari:

stayhungry-stayfree:

This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤

Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7.

I frigging needed that.

Failure is not a permanent condition.

The text on the image:

  1. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.
    More functional belief: If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human.
  2. Maladaptive belief:  If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.
    More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength).
  3. Maladaptive belief:  If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.
    More functional belief: If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition.
  4. Maladaptive belief:  I should be able to excel at everything I try.
    More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things.
  5. Maladaptive belief:  I should always work hard and do my best.
    More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time.
  6. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.
    More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%.
  7. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.
    More functional belief: If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.

apps that can help you with your mental illness

bpdelicacy:

  • daylio (available on google play and app store for free) “Pick your mood and add activities you have been doing during the day. You can also add notes and keep an old school diary.” 
  • calm harm (available on google play and app store for free) - “Calm Harm provides tasks to help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm.”
  • impulse DBT (available on google play and app store for free) - “Impulse DBT is an invaluable tool for those who need to keep track of daily impulses for Dialectical Behavior Therapy.”
  • 7 cups of tea (available on google play and app store for free) - “Whether you are going through a challenging time or just want to talk to someone, at 7 Cups you’ll find a path connecting you to kind people and helping you develop new skills to solve your problems. Over 16 million conversations.”
  • what’s up - mental health app (available on google play and app store for free) “What’s Up? is a fantastic free app utilising some of the best CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and ACT (Acceptance Commitment Therapy) methods to help you cope with Depression, Anxiety, Anger, Stress and more.”
  • pacifica (available on google play and app store for free) - “Pacifica gives you psychologist-designed tools to address them based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, mindfulness meditation, relaxation, and mood/health tracking.” 
  • booster buddy (available on google play and app store for free) - “BoosterBuddy is a free app designed to help teens and young adults improve their mental health. Manage your personal wellness journey and earn achievements as your sidekick guides you through a series of daily quests designed to establish and sustain positive habits.”

apps that can help you with your mental illness

bpdelicacy:

  • daylio (available on google play and app store for free) “Pick your mood and add activities you have been doing during the day. You can also add notes and keep an old school diary.” 
  • calm harm (available on google play and app store for free) - “Calm Harm provides tasks to help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm.”
  • impulse DBT (available on google play and app store for free) - “Impulse DBT is an invaluable tool for those who need to keep track of daily impulses for Dialectical Behavior Therapy.”
  • 7 cups of tea (available on google play and app store for free) - “Whether you are going through a challenging time or just want to talk to someone, at 7 Cups you’ll find a path connecting you to kind people and helping you develop new skills to solve your problems. Over 16 million conversations.”
  • what’s up - mental health app (available on google play and app store for free) “What’s Up? is a fantastic free app utilising some of the best CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and ACT (Acceptance Commitment Therapy) methods to help you cope with Depression, Anxiety, Anger, Stress and more.”
  • pacifica (available on google play and app store for free) - “Pacifica gives you psychologist-designed tools to address them based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, mindfulness meditation, relaxation, and mood/health tracking.” 
  • booster buddy (available on google play and app store for free) - “BoosterBuddy is a free app designed to help teens and young adults improve their mental health. Manage your personal wellness journey and earn achievements as your sidekick guides you through a series of daily quests designed to establish and sustain positive habits.”

foreverdreamingbymoonlight:

daggerpen:

Gentle reminder that the human eye is naturally drawn by noise and movement, so the next time you walk into a crowd or a bit late into a lecture or something like that, they’re not staring at you or judging; it’s just an instinctive reaction that has nothing to do with you doing anything wrong.

This really helps my anxiety.

chefpyro:

chefpyro:

Being cheerful is not unmasculine. Being kind is not unmasculine. Being passionate is not unmasculine.

Being emotional is not unmasculine. Talking about your problems is not unmasculine. Needing help is not unmasculine. Masculinity should not equate to stoicism. People should not have to feel afraid or ashamed of appearing vulnerable.

tunte:

former-fatty:

tunte:

Why y'all so afraid of historical gays

Why wouldn’t you be afraid of Alexander the Great? He’s one of the greatest conquerors in history and was merciless in battle.

That’s actually a fair point

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celebsofcolor:

Taraji P. Henson for Marie Claire

September 20 2017

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joeldasalsa:

People might not realize how groundbreaking this is to recognize in India.

You can't just "try harder" and fix a chemical imbalance. Chemicals in your body don't respond to how badly you "want" something. That's like saying someone didn't beat cancer because they didn't "want it bad enough". You cannot will away an illness.

turing-tested:

scrogms:

turing-tested:

whats that one fetish called where you and your partner mutually respect and care about each other very much

love

kinky! i like it

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virginamerica:

astronautrix:

buzzfeed:

12 Adult Actors Who Played Teens Vs. What Teens Really Look Like

Grease, enough said 

i love that this article is not only pointing out a super common and troubling phenomenon in movie culture but was also probably set up the way it is specifically so the author could put embarrassing pictures of their friends on buzzfeed

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