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February 28 2018

crownsoflaurels1020:

cowlicklesschick:

One time one of my coworkers was talking about his daughter (who was only 5-6 at the time) and how he was already worried about boys, etc. once she got older. He wasn’t one of those dads, who would quite literally hunt down a teenage boy with a shotgun over some backseat shenanigans. He was just a concerned dad.

He asked me what my dad used to do to scare all of the boys away from me, or to at least make sure they were good to me.

My answer?

Example.

My dad never once said, “Katie, if a boy hits you, make sure to bring him back here so I can make him pay.”

Instead, my kind, gentle-soul dad expressed anger and utter contempt for men who beat their wives (and vice versa), and has never in his life raised his hand against me or my mother.

My dad never once said, “Katie, don’t go out with a boy who’s rude to the waitress.”

Instead, my father has treated every single server we’ve had throughout my entire life (except the rare ones who were rude first) with respect and courtesy.

My dad never once told my brothers to get up and offer the pregnant lady their seat on the subway.

Instead he was the first one to stand up, and smiled proudly when his young sons copied him when 2 other women boarded.

My dad didn’t raise me to only make good decisions when he’s there looking over my shoulder. He showed me what to look for in a man, not by preaching at me or declaring that he was the perfect mold. But his treatment of others (esp women) is the foundation for my standards when it comes to men.

So, parents, you want to make sure all of those Bad Apples stay away? Step one is to demonstrate what a Good Apple looks like, up close and personal.

Because if you’ve taught your daughters to respect themselves enough to have high standards, there won’t be any need for you chase any Bad Apples away. Your daughter will take care of that for you.

This is important. It’s also important to teach little girls that self help is always an option.

When I was eight I went to my parents crying because a little boy was routinely jumping me from behind when he passed me in the hallways and pulling my hair and it hurt.

My parents didn’t tell me that the boy must have a crush on me, or that I should cut my hair, or even to go tell a teacher (though that last one wouldn’t have been bad advice).

Instead, my dad knelt down and soberly said the following:

“That’s not ok. It’s never ok for someone to touch you in a manner you don’t like. If someone does that too you once, you ask them politely to stop and tell them you don’t like it when they do that. If they do it a second time, you look them in the eye and tell them loudly, “I’m feeling threatened and if you do that again I will defend myself.’ If they do it a third time, you break their nose.”

He proceeded to teach me how to break someone’s nose.

I’m sure people will debate the appropriateness of this advice, but I’ve only ever had to move past yelling “I’m feeling threatened” once. My dad wanted me to know, from an early age, that I wasn’t weak or entirely dependent on others to defend myself, he wanted to teach me that I had power too, and I should use it when necessary.

melisica:

just in case no one told you today:
- i love you
- you’re doing great
- i believe in you

February 27 2018

datrapbando:

Not giving a fuck is better than revenge

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positivemessagefortheday:

So I wrote a thing.

February 24 2018

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nonbinarypastels:

[Image Description: A vertical row of four color blocks in varying shades of orange with text that reads “questioning does not have a time frame” / “there’s no rush to find a label” / “don’t feel pressured to figure it all out now” / “take all the time you need”]

tsarmander:

josesheerio:

I’d like to be him

I’d like to be one of those cats

ethereal-faun:

Im tired of skinny white boys being the only gay couples in anything, like give me some black boys in love, give me trans boys of colour holding hands, give me dark skinned asian boys in love, give me some chubby boys holding hands, give me gay relationships where the boys have something other than a chiseled face and clear skin, give me gay relationships with boys who have acne and freckles and stretch marks, give me something else than skinny white boys making out shirtless p l e a s e

psa

lu-recovers:

don’t always feel the need to be “positive” and “happy” while in recovery. although those things are wonderful to be, it’s not always possible for those recovering. remember you’re allowed to admit you’re not okay because maybe by admitting this, it allows for the moment where you realise: if i’m not okay, i can also be okay (at least one day).

and that’s what you need to fight for. that one day.

November 04 2017

mental-health-recovery:

Repeat after me: I am a fucking awesome person who has dealt with so much shit and made it through it all & i’m still cute, smart, funny, nice, intelligent and I kick ass.

novice-heartbreaker:

It’s okay if you can’t bring yourself to love every piece of you. It’s okay if you only like parts of yourself right now. Loving at least pieces of yourself is a step in the right direction. It’s okay if you’re not all the way there yet.

blerdrhythm:

nefertitiq:

thenatsdorf:

Mirror calligraphy.

Calming.

Gorgeous.

October 23 2017

the-ice-castle:

You know, one thing i like about Mulan is how Yao, Ling and Chien Po don’t really seem to care about the fact that Mulan is a girl.

I mean, when they find out, they are visibly perplexed

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But even so, they rush and try to help her when she’s about to get killed

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After this, they all seem quite depressed about having to leave her behind (and when Shang ignores her)

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And when she shows up and takes action, they gladly follow her lead

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And they even rock some crossdressing, like she did

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(btw they just missed a great opportunity to make Shang crossdress here, shame on you movie)

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Honestly, i just think this needs more appreciation. Because to them, Mulan didn’t have to prove herself again, just because she is a girl. She already earned their friendship and respect when she was ‘Ping’, and that was enough.

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corvidaezero:

“As the father of no daughters because I’m literally in 8th grade, I think sexual harassment is bad.”

These kid are the future.

October 22 2017

Treat yourself like a miracle.
— I hope you don’t forget, Alaska Gold. (via hereunoia)
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October 21 2017

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positivedoodles:

[Image description: drawing of a green and purple turtle above a caption that says “I can do this even if it’s difficult. I can do this even if it takes times. I can do this even if I can’t do it in the exact way I originally planned. I can do this.”]

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October 19 2017

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